Peer-to-peer accountability, equity and inclusion training
Whether business, nonprofit or groups of individuals with common interests, how do you create a brave space to address issues of gender and racial bias? You are likely losing and wasting talent if your organization refuses to acknowledge that racism and sexism are a part of your culture. How could they not be? They are threaded through the fabric of American life. When you decide to deal with these issues, you get a brilliant, impactful, and productive team capable of taking your organization to your industry's leading edge.
I lead companies and communities to impactful accountability, equity and inclusion
I am a restorative-justice mediator and facilitator. I came to the womanalive Violating Intervention and Prevention Program in 2010, as a participant. I soon learned that interpersonal violating is played out on a macro level using, among other things, white supremacy's control and coercion of resources. From 2011 to 2015, I was womanalive's director and facilitator. During those four years, the San Francisco Adult Probation Department’s Domestic Violence Unit certified me as a batterer intervention program provider. I was referred participants from as far away as Los Angeles, and worked with women on probation for child abuse and endangerment.
I spent a year training and brainstorming with a Swords to Ploughshares cohort convened to find solutions to military personnel's post-deployment domestic violence. In 2012, I was an advisor to San Francisco City Attorney Dennis Herrera's legal team during ethics commission hearings for suspended sheriff Ross Mirkarimi. I am on the board of directors for the non-profit Greenermind Summit, a community of triple-bottom-line sustainability leaders. My work there has focused on creating a culture of empathy and accountability for our mostly-white participants.
I use a peer facilitation, active-consent based, each-one-teach-one approach.
ACCOUNTABILITY: What it is and
why you need it
Being accountable means taking responsibility for your actions, and learning to take opposite action
As Google's Project Aristotle confirmed, psychological safety is the most important attribute of successful teams. Psychological, emotional and physical safety are the keys to functional working relationships, communities and businesses.
Addressing these issues directly means becoming aware of the culturally ingrained inequities that limit a team's effectiveness. With my process, teams explore their social ecology, notice the biases they have been trained to ignore and become accountable by learning to take opposite action.
The key to shifting toward an equitable paradigm is in recognizing and using tools we naturally possess. Every single person has access to their own experience. Experience IS. It is immediate, not mediate-able. Accepting and validating another's experience leads to empathy, and empathy to reduced stress and a willingness to take responsibility, to be accountable for harms done.
Accountability Needs Assessment
To get a sense of your business' needs, I offer a succinct survey process. This will provide data about your organization's accountability assets and growth opportunities. From there, I'll join you in identifying pain points, and make recommendations to optimize accountability growth.
Will your next hire put your business at risk? Find out!
In an interview, I ask about people's experiences with work relationships, what they have done when things go wrong, and determine whether their actions will put your company at risk. I also listen for the often-coded language of superiority, a person's belief that the rules don't apply to them. With each assessment, I can predict the risk of hiring, partnering, or investing in an individual. Why do this? Weinstein. Nassar. Spacey. Toback ...
Protecting your business is about reward outweighing risk. Wouldn't you rather know ahead of time if an employee, leader or partner is likely to cost you and your company millions in lawsuits, lost work, lost networks and lost opportunities?
Workshops. Classes. Public Speaking.
Listening To Racism Workshop: Learning to notice and stop racist thoughts and actions common for white people
PARTICIPANT PRAISE FOR LISTENING TO RACISM
“For white people who want to do something personal and highly impactful to confront racism in our society, I highly recommend Listening to Racism. [I learned] how to recognize, confront and shift the unconscious thoughts and beliefs that contribute to systemic, societal racism. This workshop is excellent.”
— Holly Pearson, Urban Planner
“I haven't ever been in a group this honest about their racism and willing to own and discuss it. This course certainly opened me up to hearing and being accountable for my internal talk-track. Once I saw this more clearly, I could see how racism is woven into every part of my social fabric. ”
— J.D. Sassaman, Autodesk
“I would recommend this workshop to friends, family or companies interested in noticing and stopping racism and white supremacy. The core practices we learned and practiced together have been powerful and transformative for me.”
— Adam Menter, Autodesk
“I started off noticing my racist thoughts and added more ability to notice the effects of racism in closer-to real time.”
— Susanna Goldenstein, Genentech
“I would recommend this workshop especially [to] people who are beginning their journey in this arena.”
— Karen Bloomberg, Psychotherapist
The Listening to Racism Workshop offers you a community in which to practice noticing and stopping your racist thoughts, assumptions, attitudes and actions. Becoming aware of our participation in white supremacy can be scary and painful. Yet, when we bring these thoughts to the light of empathetic community support, we can open up and change, maintaining our enthusiasm and stamina together.
Workshop: Listening to Sexism
Because men and women have different experiences with sexism, this class will be divided by the gender binary. At the initial workshop, participants agree to keep a journal of their sexist thoughts and actions. This practice allows participants to hear their latent sexist thoughts — directed both externally and internally — and learn to take opposite action.
For non-binary gender groups, we explore the prevailing culture's common effects on gender expression.
Applied Improv Workshop: Playing with Status and Learning to Connect
Improv is a fun and effective way to stop thinking and start experiencing — a necessary step to connecting and empathizing with others. Exploring somatic experience can reveal information from your body that your head may be missing. This two-hour workshop is split into two sections. In the first hour, we explore status with fun improv exercises. During the second hour, we practice relating to one another with an equality-focused feedback exercise.
Class: Learning to Equalize
Too often, the need to be understood is conflated with the need to be right. When a person or institution needs to reinforce their rightness—really, their expectation of authority—they often use controlling and coercive tactics that are so common, we accept them as "just the way things are."
In weekly two- to three-hour classes, we'll learn from restorative-justice practices. These have been in use for more than 40 years, helping people who control and coerce themselves and others to notice and stop their destructive behavior. It is also a way to understand and change socially accepted, destructive ways of relating that daily undermine a peaceful and just society.
This practice creates a culture shift away from personal and institutional denial, minimization, blame, and collusion of interpersonal and institutional coercion tactics, to one of personal and institutional accountability. Using an each-one-teach-one process, the group will learn active-listening, empathy-building tools that foster vulnerability and create clear, equitable, and consent-based solutions.
I am an experienced and engaging public speaker with TV, film, and radio experience. I am available for presentations, interviews, panel discussions, etc.
Some of my previous talks:
"The Necessity of Consent at Work"
"The (Not New) Sexual Harassment Crisis"
"Shutting Down of OccupySF: Lessons on Using the Tools of the Establishment to Undermine the Establishment"
"Accountability is the New Diversity"
"How Interpersonal Abuse Causes Global Warming"
"Listening to Racism"